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October 2014 Domestic Violence Awareness Month: My Story’s Kickoff

October is national Domestic Violence Awareness month and though I’ve not been posting many blogs lately I’ve been writing several stories about my childhood. It’s hard to find the time to share such intimate stories publicly. Though my fan base is small creating an archive of such painful memories for anyone other myself to see is hard. A part of me wants to think that there’s nothing special about my stories, nothing anyone would care to hear.¬†Every 9 seconds in the US a woman is assaulted or beaten, that’s a lot of stories to tell, many of which will never be heard. I think because of the sheer volume of stories out there we are somewhat desensitized to each one.

When¬†10 million children witness some form of domestic violence annually it’s hard to feel like my childhood stories are important, to anyone other than me. My mind tells me that people only care for the stories of the Janay Rice’s of the world that you have to be a celebrity for your story to matter. These are all thoughts that occur because a victim is been torn down to a level of unimportance so that they won’t share their story. It helps the abuser escape punishment or from having to be accountable.

So I decided that this month I would tell a handful of my stories. These are from my heart and I did my best to illustrate the emotion attached to them. I often feel like words can’t accurately portray my stories or how I feel. Or maybe I just lack the ability to articulate them the way I’d like. Nevertheless, I hope that my stories are emotive enough to show how domestic violence truly damages the psyche and why it’s important to share these stories. Silence is a powerful weapon for the abuser and our voices or stories are often all we have left.

If you are featured in one of my stories than take comfort in knowing that I blog anonymously, my blog is shared with a few close friends and family who already know these stories or witnessed them first hand themselves. My stories are told from my perspective so if you disagree with the story I’ve painted then tell your story on your own platform.

If you are in need of help there are resources available. Please reach out and call the National Domestic Violence Hotline
Support, resources and advice for your safety 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) Available: 24/7, 365 days a year. Bilingual advocates on hand. Resources:


  1. drenn1077

    Bland, R., & Orne, H. (1986). Family violence and psychiatric disorder. Canadian Journal of Psychiatry, 31, 129-137. (In interviews with 1,200 randomly selected Canadians found that women both engaged in and initiated violence at higher rates than their male partners.)

    1. IAMM3Z

      Thanks for the link. I’ve read differing statistics and find this study interesting. Though I’m not clear on your purpose for sharing it with me. If you feel I’ve claimed violence against men is any less important I should clarify now before my stories role out that I am aware that violence against men does happen and it bothers me equally as much as violence against women. Thought most of my stories are about childhood domestic violence which affects male and female children alike.

  2. drenn1077

    It has been my experience that when Domestic Violence is mentioned that only women are of concern. Hence we have things like the Violence Against Women Act, rather than the Violence Against People Act.

    1. IAMM3Z

      Oh I understand, that is not my position. I tend to place more emphasis on protecting children of domestic violence because it hits closer to home but I care about all forms of domestic violence. Man, woman, and child, no one deserves to be abused physically or mentally.


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